Wednesday, August 8, 2012

In Memoriam

 Norman Plourde 5/18/2012

A Death In My Family

When Life hits you too hard, what do you do?
Do you drop everything? Gather close to your loved ones? Cry, eat, sleep, cry some more?
All this, and still it is not enough. No answers. No ease for the sorrow. No turning back Time.
The Father of my beautiful Nieces, my Sister's ex-husband, died suddenly last Thursday.
Heart failure. Nobody knew. He was only 62.
What can you say? What can you do?

We gathered in Maine where Norm lived and worked. Where he was born and where he died. Where the roads are long and mostly dirt and the houses are few and far between.

A close friend of his opened her home to his Family and Friends to Gather and Remember this Wonderful Man. Father, Grandfather, Nephew, Cousin, Brother, Uncle, Brother-in-law, Ex-husband, Friend.... however you were connected to him, it was always the same... Norm was just always there. Steady, Kind, Gentle, Loving, Beloved. Only now he is gone. How do you say Good-bye?

 We stood at the edge of the little pond behind his cabin.

Home to fish and frogs. Where the deer and Herons come. 
In the woods that Norm loved.
Still thinking to find Norm somewhere nearby.
What can you do? What can you say?
How can you understand Death?

Or do you look into the eyes of his Grandchildren....


and Zahira.....

And smile because the children need you to smile.....
And because Life goes on...

Norm, You are Missed!

In Memoriam


  1. Sorry to hear your sad news, its never easy.
    Take care

  2. So sorry for you loss. Such sudden situations are horrible to cope with. We have had it, too, in our family. It is shock, pure shock. May God give you strength, and comfort you all! It needs time, a lot of time to cope with life again! Allow yourself to grieve and honour the dear one!

  3. So sorry to hear of your sad loss. Its always hard to lose a loved one. Give yourself time to grieve and take care. Sending you a Big Hug from Ireland.

  4. I am so sorry for your loss Betsy. I am someone who never knows what to say in situation like that so a big hug to you dear Friend.

  5. So sorry to hear about this sudden loss... I'm wishing you a lot of strength now!


  6. What a beautiful poetic tribute. He was a lucky man to be loved so much, and you all are blessed to have loved him.

  7. So sorry for your loss dear. Death is never easy. :(

  8. Very sorry for your loss, he was too young.
    Lovely tribute , the music is lovely too.

  9. Dear Betsy --I am so sorry for your loss!

    Big hugs,

  10. Dear Betsy,
    My heart goes out to you and your family. I hope you find all the strenght and love you need to get through these difficult time. For what it's worth, we are all there for you.
    Big hug,

  11. Oh Betsy, you made me cry all over again. I don't think it could have been more lovely - that iconic, long empty road in Maine; the sweet grandchildren. Uncomprehending faces. Just wonderful. Thank you.

  12. Hi Betsy,

    So sorry to hear about your loss. Sounds like you have great family and friends to love and support each other. My thoughts are with you!

    Andy xx

  13. I'm so sorry to hear your sad news. :[ Warm hugs for you. Take care of yourself.

  14. I am so sorry for your loss, Betsy. I wish your family and you a lot of strength.
    Warm greetings, Ilona

  15. Oh Honey! I'm so sorry for your loss. What a hole it must have left.
    Be strong and know that we are all thinking of you.
    Much love and thoughts
    Simon and Scott

  16. Betsy, I've never been so sorry to be so late to read and to comment, please forgive me. I can see in the countryside and the long, beautiful Maine road and in the lovely faces of his Grandchildren that Mr. Plourde lived his life deeply and truly and well.

  17. Thank you, Dear Friends, your words mean a great deal to me!

  18. Dearest dearest Betsy, I have been away for so long, I didn't even come here to share your grief. I am so sorry my dear friend :( , I wish I can give you a big big hug right now.

    You have gifted Norm with a beautiful tribute. It is clear that he had led a meaningful life to have been so loved by you. So beautiful, his resting place, befitting of someone wonderful like Norm.